Well I felt the need to post one more entry here due to the amount of spin and damage control that has been attempted the past few days and to include some more pics and details that only someone close to her would know.
There is an attempt to paint Jamie as the sweet innocent victim in all this and I am some kind of bad person that lurked in strip clubs for women. That is very funny and the furthest thing from the truth.
Again I never in my life thought I would date or want to be with a stripper as I used to go in there once or twice a year for the past 16 years for a couple hours only. I would feel so guilty that I would always take a shower when I got home. And I NEVER thought I would become a regular there but it happened!
So when I met Jamie it was all different. She was pl
easant and lovely and we hit if off from the beginning. Early on we started texting every few days and not long until I heard from her daily. That grew over time to weekly phone calls from her and then daily phone calls and finally she would call me twice a day whenever she could.
Early on (the first month) she told me that the felt unusually drawn to me and liked my kindness and my edge. Funny that one of these damage control posts said that she called me a “big teddy bear”. That is term that she used for me early on and never heard that again since I started losing weight and working out beginning my new life on my own as I moved to my own place in late Feb of 2009. A matter of fact the day I moved I went in to see her for a few hours and we had a VIP and I was so tired I fell asleep with my head on her lap and she rubbed my head and hair. Very nice.
I struggled inside that this was not a rebound or midlife crisis but the signs seems clear that destiny had brought us together as there were just too many freaky signs and funny coincidences and the chemistry was so strong between us or so it seemed. She quickly told me how unusually comfortable she was with me. Unlike any other customer ever. We had funny things in common like I was called Popeye in school and she was called Olive Oyl. We have the exact same deformed tooth that was a baby tooth for her and the reason for that “bridge” that I paid to have her bridge and teeth redone later that year. We have the same mole on our necks in the same place, same lines inside our hands almost identical, and we can both crack our knuckles without touching hands together. Funny and freaky.
The one things that she told me was that her father was murdered when she was 12 and in foster care and he had a very special and very unique name for her mother and for her. Well it so happens that my ex wife had a special character she plays for the kids in the school district where they live and that character has many characteristics of Jamie and her character is the same name! Well even more freaky is that a doll my ex wife sells, and resembles a young, gap toothed, long reddish haired, southern girl, as part of her deal has the exact same unique name her dad called her. This blew me away and we both freaked out and said this has to be destiny.
Ironically Jamie had a saying to me for all this stuff as she claims to be a devout Christian and prays before every meal and told me that God has a “calling on her life for speak to woman for God” one day. She encouraged me that this was all meant to be and no way it could be fake as the “devil is good at deception, but not that good”. I loved that and told me she believed it too for us! She gave me a sweet Valentine’s day card in 2009 after only knowing her a couple of months. Her first words in the card were “In a world gone crazy”. Those words were perfect like a movie trailer and described our situation perfectly. See the first pic of that card and those words!
It was around this time that I realized this was more than a friendship and yes I fell in love with her. I ler her know it and she was flattered but told me up front then that it would take time for her because of her situation with her ex husband being in prison. She told me he was the one man she had given her heart to and fully trusted with her all and he then did this to her and her kids and left them abandoned and that he was so selfish for what he did. But still she wanted to get to know me better and see where it goes and to have “more” with me when she was “done dancing” and she wanted to be “done dancing”. See the con and sympathy play?
I then committed to do whatever it took to help get her debt paid off and help her out of there for a better life and the chance that we could be together. Over time that built into mutual love and romance that was slow and methodical and almost like a teenage romance over time.
She did not want to meet outside the club originally (I later discovered she was still meeting outside the club with her last con and still having sex with him as it was not over with him yet) but wanted to get to know me better and build trust. This is why I started coming into the club for her and only her so much. Because I believed we had something unique and special and I wanted to help her get out of this mess. I was selfless and willing to sacrifice for her if necessary and I did. It was not about sex or control as what we had was sweet and a friendship that build over time slowly. She did not even dance much for me when we were together. It was like two friends hanging out at a club chatting it up and enjoying each other’s company. The difference was I was “covering her” to “shield her” from having to dance in there for her other clients that she said were nice but she would rather be with me if possible and I really tried.
By July of 2009 I was in a position to take care of her every time she came to town from “SC” (really FL folks!) I was there all the time and more and more we started hanging out at my place one or two days a week having fun and doing things together all over Atlanta.
Again it was when she wanted to meet outside the club and out of respect I let her decide when and where.
So when you read that I was a typical “predator” customer read the facts. This was a special friendship under very unique circumstances as she took me for my money and played my heart and told me of a future with she and her kids. It was devastating when I learned the truth and ended this in mid Feb 2011. Ironically I spoke to her husband on Valentine’s Day when he told me some things an lied that they were separated and I helped to “get them back together” by getting Jamie in a position where she had to tell him everything. All lies as they tried to con me with this as she was living there the entire time and they were NEVER apart! See Part2of2 for pictures and descriptions…..